The day we became a family of FOUR!

The moment we finally met our son didn't go anything like we pictured. I mean we prepared ourselves for many worse case scenarios, but in our minds we always thought we would at least capture the moment no matter how good or bad on camera, but we didn't even get that chance.
After being in Beijing for less than 24 hours, we boarded our 3 hour flight for Fuzhou, Fujian province. The flight was only slightly delayed and our daughter slept the entire time - it was glorious. Our adoption travel guide met us after we collected our luggage and handed us a package that outlined our schedule for the remainder of our time in Fuzhou. In the back of the package there was more information about our son from the orphanage. At first we thought it was answers to the questions we sent to them at Christmas, but these were different. Likely another family's  questions for their adopted child, but luckily the answers did cover many of the same ones we asked.
We sat and read through this info at the airport McDonalds while our daughter continued to sleep in my husbands arms for about another half hour. We found out we were waiting for another family to land that was also adopting  from Fuzhou. They were an American couple that were using a different adoption agency but would be using the same guide as us for the rest of our week. After only a few minutes of meeting the American family we found out that they started their trip as a family of 9 and by the end of their time in China they would be a family of 11. Yes, you read that correctly. They have 5 biological children (their 15 year old travelled with them and was amazing with the kids, including our daughter), the youngest of which was only 18 months old. They also have 2 adopted children from Atlanta (where they live) with special needs. When we met them they had already picked up their 13 year old adopted daughter earlier that week from a different province. She  was a cheery happy child already calling her parents Mama and Baba (Chinese for Dad). They were going to be meeting their second newly adopted daughter, who was almost 2 years old, when they arrived at our hotel.
Our arrival at the hotel is when everything we planned for changed. The American family's child was already there waiting for them and as they walked in the door they were handed their little girl.  We were trying to figure out what to do while our guide was helping the other family with translation and paperwork for their adoption.  We were trying to figure out what room we were in when two women came through the front doors of the hotel carrying our son. We both knew it was him right away and we both just sort of stood there dumbfounded not knowing what to do, while our daughter repeatedly asked "what are we doing?".
Our guide came back over to us in order to help us finally check in and realized what was going on. The next half an hour was an absolute blur. Our guide walked us over to the lounge area of our hotel lobby and our son was put into my arms immediately. We had no time to get out our camera, any toys, prep our daughter, or even process what was happening. So even though I was having a complete panic attack on the inside, I tried to pretend that everything was fine. Our son cried at first and tried to squirm away from me when he was handed to me. Luckily I have been working out and I was able to contain all 27 lbs of him. My husband tried to go and find our camera and some snacks to made the transition a little bit better, but as soon as he returned with both items they sat him down and asked him to fill out paperwork. Basically he signed temporary agreements making us his guardians until we signed the official paperwork the next day. The whole process took 10 minutes. No questions were answered, no instructions given. The only thing I was told about our son was that the silver bracelet he was wearing was from one of his nannies.
Next we went to finish the check in process and go to our room. And that is when reality hit! We had nothing unpacked and didn't have any food or formula (we anticipated buying these things before he arrived) for him once be became hungry. We basically went into survival mode which is unfortunate because neither of us really got to enjoy the moment.
My husband went with the other father (from Atlanta) and our guide across the highway to get some food and formula. I stayed with our daughter and son and tried to keep them both happy with rice puffs. I tried at one point to put our son in his crib so that I could find the diapers in our luggage to change him. That didn't go over well, he immediately started crying so I carried him around with me from suitcase to suitcase trying to find the things I needed. Besides that moment, he was very quiet and didn't make much noise at all. This was a good thing since the novelty of meeting her new brother had already worn off for our daughter and she was snuggled up watching Beauty and the Beast on the I Pad for the 100th time so she was zero help to me. My husband returned an hour later and we then tried to figure out the water to formula ratio  for his bottle by interpreting the Mandarin instructions on the side of the box. Thank goodness for Google!
After both kids were fed, I changed our son into some pajamas. He was only wearing one pink shoe when he arrived, apparently the other one was lost on the way to see us. He had only 4 long sleeve shirts on and a pair of fleece lined jeans on. Our room was unbearably hot, but even with all of those layers he didn't seem to mind. Fairly quickly after I changed him he basically rolled over on our bed and put his finger in his mouth (he's a finger sucker this one) and fell asleep. He was likely exhausted from the days events but I was completely stunned. Especially since we have never experienced an easier bedtime in our entire lives as parents. Both kids were asleep by 8:30 pm. While the kids slept my husband and I tried to organize our room and grasp the life changing event that happened that day. Our son only woke up once when I tried to move him to his crib but it only lasted a few minutes and he proceeded to sleep all the way to 6 am. Our daughter on the other hand was up at 1:30 am China time thinking it was morning and was ready for breakfast. My husband and I took shifts laying with her and talking to her since we had another full day ahead of us.
So that's it, that was the day we met our son. As crazy as it was I wouldn't change it for anything. It was the day our family finally became complete. A day that we will celebrate and talk about for years to come.

We are HOME!

Well we have been home for over a week now from our trip to China to get our son. This post is just a quick hello to our regular readers who we haven't had a chance to talk to since our return. My goal is to write a post about each day of our trip (or at least the really important ones) so it may take a little time. And now that we are a family of 4, I seem to have even less time than I did before. Weird how that works. All of us are very happy to be home and we are slowly adjusting to the time change and to our change in family structure. Since we have returned, a lot of our time has been filled with paperwork, medical appointments, and most importantly, gaining trust and building a strong attachment with our son. We feel so blessed to have our son home with us. We are so lucky to have been chosen as his family. He seems to be adjusting well to his new surroundings. For the most part he is a happy boy, who is mischievous, and who loves to eat. Our favourite thing to do is to find new ways to make him laugh. His laugh is the most wonderful sound.
Thank you to everyone who followed us on this journey, who kept in touch with us during our trip, who prayed for us, and who have supported us every step of the way. Your love and support has been amazing throughout this entire process. We cannot wait for all of you to meet our son. He is one amazing little person who I am sure you will fall in love with the minute you see him (we may be a bit biased, but wait and see what you think after he smiles at your for the first time).

Happy Spring everyone, talk to you soon...I promise.

Chinese Visas

This is a guest blog post.  I’m the husband that is grateful for my wife that keeps you all up to date with this blog on a regular basis.  She is phenomenal at doing each post and I’m good at proofreading if I’m around when she is about to post it – and that’s all I can take credit for.

I have had the pleasure of doing some of the immigration paperwork as well as the visa applications for our passports.  China is quite strict with accounting for who is coming and going and what is causing this movement. 

The Canadian immigration paperwork is done in two phases.  The first phase was completed almost a year ago (oops – I was supposed to do a guest post on that process).  The short version is that I filled out about 20 pages of online documents filling in all of our personal information from addresses to finances to family details and throughout those documents referred to our son as “unknown child” with ****-**-** as his birthdate.  This was all done with the help of women that has adopted two girls from China and has helped numerous families with this complicated paperwork. 

The second phase of that paperwork will be completed in Beijing during the second week of our trip after all of the official adoption paperwork has been completed.  Fingers crossed that all the immigration paperwork is done properly so that upon our return to the airport in Toronto, the immigration officers will simply say, “Welcome home” to us and “Welcome to Canada” to our son. 

Then there were the Chinese visas for our passports.  As I said, the Chinese government likes to closely monitor who is going in and out of their country.  We were warned that when filling out the application for our visas that we really needed to be meticulous in following the instructions and to be sure to include all the necessary documentation.  Each of our applications was four pages in length and included typical personal information, passport information, place of employment, family information on children, parents and spouse, reason for travel, flight details, hotel information for our stay in China and all the information about the Chinese adoption organization that we are working with. 

The closest visa office is in downtown Toronto (2 hours East of where we live) and because we needed all the specifics of our trip to apply, we really didn’t have the time to mail in our application.  With only three weeks until our trip, I drove the three applications down to the Toronto office.  My appointment was at 9:00am and I made it no problem.  By 10:00am I was finishing the third and final application.  All the supporting documentation was in order and the last thing to check were that the signatures on our applications matched the signatures on our passports.  One of the signatures (I won’t say which one to protect my wife’s identity) didn’t match enough to pass.  “So you won’t accept the applications because those signatures don’t match?” They needed an original document so there wasn’t another option aside from driving home to get another signature and driving back.  My lovely wife met me part way to save me some time to ensure I could make it back to Toronto in time to get it all sorted out.  I realized that day, that I’m not cut out to be in the driving business.  When I got home around 7:00pm, I was ready for bed.   I’m heading back to Toronto in a few days to pick up our passports and that is one of the final things off the list in preparation for our trip – aside from packing. 

ONE MONTH!

In exactly one month we will be flying to China to get our son Emmett Zhen Feng! As a side note, for those of you that don't know, we decided (after a lot of thought) to go with Emmett for his name and will keep his Chinese name as his middle name. That way if he ever wanted to use his Chinese name he could......
So back to leaving in a month, to my husband and I that seems so far away but also so close all at the same time. While we would like to be leaving tomorrow to get him there is still so much we need to do before then. Over the last few weeks I have worked on narrowing down our packing list. I have used the list that our adoption agency provided us along with researching several adoption blogs to see what others who have taken the trip recommend bringing. I have narrowed it down to 5 pages. My husband and I have been on a few trips overseas that require planned packing and Tetris like skills to fit everything in the luggage but this is going to be different. The amount of recommended medicines on our list could take up an entire carry-on, plus we will have two tiny humans with us. We are talking more preventative medicines then when we went to Africa for our honeymoon where we slept in tents and didn't have running water! The main reason for this is because some medicines we may need are either not the same in China, are not available, or are just too expensive. That is where the blog research has come in very handy. Some of the blogs I read even wrote out exactly what they took on the trip and indicated if they would bring it again or leave it at home. Perhaps I will do the same with our packing list when I return from our trip so that it is available for others who might take same the trip in the future.

We have also received our finalized itinerary from Children's Bridge. Seeing on paper what we will be doing each day has made it even more real. I have written out a summary of our trip below.

Beijing:
Sat. Feb 25 - Adoption travel guide will meet us at the airport in Beijing and transfer family to the hotel.
Sun. Feb 26 - Adoption travel guide and driver will meet us at the hotel and bring us back to the Beijing airport for our flight to our sons province Fujian.

Fujian:
Sun. Feb 26 - Provincial adoption travel guide will meet us at the airport in Fuzhou, Fujian Province and bring us to the hotel. We will receive our son on the afternoon of Sunday February 26th.
Mon. Feb 27 - Prov. adoption travel guide will meet us at the hotel and bring us to the provincial adoption centre for registration, notarization and to complete our son's Chinese passport application.
Tues. Feb 28 - Sightseeing in Fuzhou City.
Wed. Mar 1 - Prov. adoption travel guide and driver will pick us up at the hotel for the drive to the orphanage. Visit the orphanage (approx. two hour drive).
Thurs. Mar 2 - Prov. adoption travel guide and driver will bring your notarized adoption paperwork to you at the hotel.
Fri. Mar 3  - Prov. adoption travel guide will pick up your son's Chinese passport and bring it to you at the hotel. Free day in Fuzhou.
Sat. Mar 4 - Prov. adoption travel guide will pick us up and take us to the Fuzhou airport for our flight back to Beijing.

Beijing:
Sat. Mar 4 - Adoption travel guide will meet your family at the Beijing airport and transfer your family to the hotel.
Sun. Mar 5 - Complete paperwork for CIC (Immigration).
Mon. Mar 6 - Medical examination for Emmett. Adoption travel guide will take immigration paperwork to the Canadian Embassy. Visit the Great Wall in the afternoon.
Tues. Mar 7 - Visit Hutong, make dumplings for lunch, acrobat show in the afternoon.
Wed. Mar 9 - Visit the Beijing Zoo (panda house).
Thurs. Mar 9 - One dinner arranged by adoption travel service (Peking duck).
Fri. Mar 10 - Adoption travel guide and driver will pick us up at the hotel and transfer us to the Beijing airport for our flight back to Canada.

So as you can see the first few days of our trip are going to be very busy and very exciting. Fingers crossed everyone will adjust to the time change in a very short amount of time (ha ha). We know the day we receive our son will be a whirlwind (and sadly likely very traumatizing for him). We weren't expecting it to be so soon after we arrived but the more time we have to bond with him before we fly home the better.

While I have been working on the packing list and finding/purchasing the supplies we need my husband has been working on all of the paperwork that needs to be completed. Right now he is working on our VISA applications. Perhaps sometime he can write a bit more about that process (once it is complete and we know that we did everything correctly).

I have also downloaded a few apps for our phones and I Pad that we will use on our trip.  A few translation apps (Pleco Chinese Dictionary), and a learn Chinese app, so that we can communicate with our son and with the local people when our guide is not around. I downloaded a Chinese Kids Songs CD that we can play for him in our hotel or on the plane. Our goal is to learn one of the songs so that we can sing it to him when we meet him. That was an idea I received from one of the blogs I followed. They said that it was the best thing they could have done to help with the beginning stages of bonding with their adopted child.

This weekend marks the beginning of the Chinese New Year. 2017 will be the year of the Rooster. To celebrate we are hosting our families for a traditional (well we are going to try) Chinese meal and festivities. We hope to make this a yearly tradition. So far our daughter has loved seeing the bright red Chinese decorations I have hung throughout our main floor. She is really looking forward to our "big Chinese party" this weekend.

Happy New Year everyone!